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Our courtship story, and a special surprise for me

I don’t know who knows the story of how Josh and I met, but here it is:  Our senior year of high school, Josh and I both went to something called Y Weekend at BYU. We went to the campus, got a tour, attended some sporting events and classes, and got to know other seniors from all over the States. I think there were about 40 people in our group.

Josh and I didn’t really talk or get to know each other during Y Weekend, but we recognized each other enough so that, flash forward a few months to the first week of our freshman year at BYU, we recognized each other when we were put into the same New Student Orientation group. After a fun weekend at orientation, with more campus tours and a dance, Josh and I knew each other, had talked, and started to be friends.

During freshman year we hung out a few times, and went on a few dates (including Preference, so I’m a supporter of girls’ choice dances), and really had fun together. But Josh was only at BYU a semester before he left for his mission, and he lived in the Heritage dorms and I lived in Helaman…you know, long distance. ;-) So we stayed just good friends. But as a Christmas gift for me, right before Josh left, he surprised me in the lobby of my dorm and gave me a super nice card (still have it and love what it says) and a framed picture. It was a photo that I had taken a few years before on a vacation, one of a pier and an old boat at sunset, that Josh really liked and had put on his photography blog (and you probably know that Josh is awesome at and loves photography). So the picture had special meaning. I loved it and put it up in my dorm room, and then each other room I had the whole time I was at BYU.

Flash forward two years to when Josh got home from his mission, and really, things just clicked. He started writing me (I was in Spain) when he got home, we exchanged emails, we both ended up at BYU in the spring, we saw each other for the first time, we went on our first post-mission date (an amazing magical date – a photo scavenger hunt, of course), and pretty soon after that we were seeing each other every day, then dating, then in love, then engaged, then married. :) BYU in the spring and summer was a wonderful time to date and fall in love. :)

Anyway, flash forward to yesterday, a few years later, when we’ve moved from BYU, married for three and a half years, with a ten-month-old baby and a new life, and we’re hanging up pictures in our new house (our last big move-in task, yay!). I found the framed boat picture (which I’ve always kept on display in our house), but I needed a frame for a picture of the Savior that we’ve never hung (and I was starting to feel guilty). The boat picture frame fit the print of the Savior perfectly and even matched, so I figured I’d put it there for now, just until we get a new frame, and then the boat picture goes back to where it was (it’s still very special to me). But when I was changing the picture, I was shocked to find, hidden behind the boat picture, a nicely matted picture of me and Josh during our preference date, with a short hand-written note from Josh on it. Wow! I had never even seen that before! It was so crazy to think that Josh gave that to me almost seven years ago, and I had that picture and note the whole time, but never found it until we were married with a kid! Crazy! I started shouting with so much excitement when I found it that Josh (who was hanging pictures upstairs) thought Carson had taken his first step.

It was a really neat experience. Kind of felt like something from a movie. Thanks for letting me share. :)

Turning Point - a great new BYU TV series

Hooked on Turning Point

Turning Point - a great new BYU TV series Josh and I have a new favorite TV show (even though we don’t really have TV). No, it’s not Psych—even though we like that, too—it’s an even better show called Turning Point on BYU TV. One Sunday night we flipped on BYU TV and this show came on. It was talking about these really depressing stories of kids in foster homes with no hope, and people who had no healthcare, and we said to ourselves, “What is this depressing show?” But over the next hour as we watched, we were amazed as the stories unfolded and we learned about amazing, creative, selfless things that people were doing to help those around them.

The show features inspiring stories of people who see social problems around them and do something about it, often in innovative or big ways. It’s incredibly inspiring, and both of us have shed a few tears (well, more than a few, in my case) as we’ve watched the episodes. It’s so great to see people doing things for others, and also a great refreshing take on television: something that’s uplifting and real, and also high quality and very well done.

Want to watch for yourself? All of the episodes are online and you can watch them any time. Here are a few of our favorites. We really hope you check it out.

  • Josh’s Favorite: Echo Clinic and San Pasqual Academy Echo Clinic and San Pasqual Academy - Play Episode– This is the first episode we watched, and talks about an incredible new take on foster children care and education, as well as an incredible model of community-provided healthcare. So great!
  • Paige’s Favorite: Or really, one of many! It’s so hard to choose. But I love the story of Whitney Elementary Whitney Elementary - Play Episode– prepare to have your heartstrings tugged! An elementary school with a large population of homeless/underprivileged children finds donors to provide food, clothing, and more to its students.

Cutting back, digitally

This month’s Ensign magazine has an article I read and really enjoyed about keeping safe and balanced in today’s technological world. This is something that I express my worry to Josh about a lot – how are we going to raise our kids in this world, when everything’s changing so fast? I guess I’m kind of a technophobe sometimes when it comes to the Internet and Facebook and stuff like that. (Poor Josh, technological genius, married to a kind-of-sort-of technophobe.) I mean, don’t get me wrong. I’m pretty tech savvy. But sometimes the digital world can be scary, right? Especially when thinking about raising kids?

Anyway, the article had a section called “10 Signs of Digital Overload.” Here they are:

  1. Slipping away from activities with people to check e-mail or social networking sites.
  2. Checking the same sites repeatedly within a short period of time.
  3. Spending little time outside.
  4. Finding it hard to complete a task such as writing a report without frequently breaking away to check e-mail or unrelated websites.
  5. Spending little time in face-to-face interactions with friends.
  6. Going online or using a digital device when you feel stressed or want to avoid an unpleasant task.
  7. Family members spending most of their time at home in separate rooms interacting with screens.
  8. Frequently using digital devices to entertain a child instead of talking, singing, playing, or reading with him or her.
  9. Checking the computer first thing in the morning, or getting up during the night to use digital devices.
  10. Spending long stretches of time surfing for content, often viewing content that is inappropriate or borderline.

I tried to answer the questions honestly, and I was a little surprised to see how familiar some sounded (like, ahem, 2 or 9). But really it’s not anything I didn’t know. I’ve felt recently that I’m too addicted to checking my email and too prone to wasting time on my computer, and I’ve wanted to fix it. Fortunately, the article also has a “10 Ways to Cut Back” section, yay. :) Then Josh helped me set some specific goals (not quite as drastic as getting rid of my laptop completely, which I considered) to help me not feel so digitally overloaded.

So here’s what I’ve done for the past week: First, I keep my laptop and its charger in the basement, rather than by my bedside or in the living room or wherever’s convenient. Just keeping it down there is a huge barrier to me checking my email or wasting time throughout the day. Then if I do need my computer to do a specific task (like post to our blog :)) I’ll bring it upstairs, but then try to put it downstairs again when I’m done.

Then I set a goal to check my email just once a day, in the afternoon after Josh was home so I wasn’t wasting Carson’s nap time online when I could be doing more uplifting things. I gave myself 30 minutes after Josh came home of personal “Internet” time, when I could check my email, read Google Reader, etc. And really, that shouldn’t be hard, right? To check my email once a day? It’s not even like I get that many important emails. It’s totally reasonable to check it once a day.

But, sad to say, in the beginning, it was hard! At first checking my email would always be in the back of my mind, and I’d eagerly await until I Josh came home and I could. But by the end of the week, I didn’t think about it during the day anymore. I felt free to spend my time and energy on other things.

And I really noticed a difference, too! The biggest difference was in how productive I felt. I felt like I could get so much done! And I loved the feeling it gave me, too, of just knowing that I wasn’t addicted, and I didn’t have the need to run to my computer every hour and check my email.

So I’m all for this new email-once-a-day thing. And for keeping my computer far away and using it only to accomplish specific tasks, not to waste time. Now, all that said, I’m far from perfect. :) Yesterday I had a relapse and checked my email at least seven times. But that’s okay! Tomorrow’s a new week and I’m going to start with a clean slate.

Josh says: By the way, I’ve been doing heavy research into email usage and information overload for a capstone project this semester, and came across an interesting research paper that experimented with the optimum number of times to check email in a day. A lot of us are “continuous checkers,” meaning we know about email right as it comes in (because our computer chimes or our smartphone vibrates). This is, as you might guess, the worst type of checking because it continually distracts you from the task at hand. Some studies have shown that it can take anywhere from 24 to 40 minutes to get totally back to a task after being distracted by an email! No wonder we feel like we are wasting our days on it. But back to the paper: with continuous checking being the worst, checking email 8 times was still better but not great, but checking email 4 times a day or less was optimum. You schedule just 4, 2, or, like Paige, 1 time a day to check your email, get it all done at once, and you will be able to get your more important tasks done much more quickly and waste less time getting distracted by these less important emails. Just thought you’d want to know!

100 posts!

This is our one hundredth post! Woo hoo! Kind of neat that we’ve been posting for as long as we’ve been married (almost three years!) and through lots of major events (like having Carson!). We’re glad to have this record of our life together, and glad to share it with you. And to celebrate, some photos you may or may not have seen showing our most excited and happy faces: