Cutting back, digitally

This month’s Ensign magazine has an article I read and really enjoyed about keeping safe and balanced in today’s technological world. This is something that I express my worry to Josh about a lot – how are we going to raise our kids in this world, when everything’s changing so fast? I guess I’m kind of a technophobe sometimes when it comes to the Internet and Facebook and stuff like that. (Poor Josh, technological genius, married to a kind-of-sort-of technophobe.) I mean, don’t get me wrong. I’m pretty tech savvy. But sometimes the digital world can be scary, right? Especially when thinking about raising kids?

Anyway, the article had a section called “10 Signs of Digital Overload.” Here they are:

  1. Slipping away from activities with people to check e-mail or social networking sites.
  2. Checking the same sites repeatedly within a short period of time.
  3. Spending little time outside.
  4. Finding it hard to complete a task such as writing a report without frequently breaking away to check e-mail or unrelated websites.
  5. Spending little time in face-to-face interactions with friends.
  6. Going online or using a digital device when you feel stressed or want to avoid an unpleasant task.
  7. Family members spending most of their time at home in separate rooms interacting with screens.
  8. Frequently using digital devices to entertain a child instead of talking, singing, playing, or reading with him or her.
  9. Checking the computer first thing in the morning, or getting up during the night to use digital devices.
  10. Spending long stretches of time surfing for content, often viewing content that is inappropriate or borderline.

I tried to answer the questions honestly, and I was a little surprised to see how familiar some sounded (like, ahem, 2 or 9). But really it’s not anything I didn’t know. I’ve felt recently that I’m too addicted to checking my email and too prone to wasting time on my computer, and I’ve wanted to fix it. Fortunately, the article also has a “10 Ways to Cut Back” section, yay. :) Then Josh helped me set some specific goals (not quite as drastic as getting rid of my laptop completely, which I considered) to help me not feel so digitally overloaded.

So here’s what I’ve done for the past week: First, I keep my laptop and its charger in the basement, rather than by my bedside or in the living room or wherever’s convenient. Just keeping it down there is a huge barrier to me checking my email or wasting time throughout the day. Then if I do need my computer to do a specific task (like post to our blog :)) I’ll bring it upstairs, but then try to put it downstairs again when I’m done.

Then I set a goal to check my email just once a day, in the afternoon after Josh was home so I wasn’t wasting Carson’s nap time online when I could be doing more uplifting things. I gave myself 30 minutes after Josh came home of personal “Internet” time, when I could check my email, read Google Reader, etc. And really, that shouldn’t be hard, right? To check my email once a day? It’s not even like I get that many important emails. It’s totally reasonable to check it once a day.

But, sad to say, in the beginning, it was hard! At first checking my email would always be in the back of my mind, and I’d eagerly await until I Josh came home and I could. But by the end of the week, I didn’t think about it during the day anymore. I felt free to spend my time and energy on other things.

And I really noticed a difference, too! The biggest difference was in how productive I felt. I felt like I could get so much done! And I loved the feeling it gave me, too, of just knowing that I wasn’t addicted, and I didn’t have the need to run to my computer every hour and check my email.

So I’m all for this new email-once-a-day thing. And for keeping my computer far away and using it only to accomplish specific tasks, not to waste time. Now, all that said, I’m far from perfect. :) Yesterday I had a relapse and checked my email at least seven times. But that’s okay! Tomorrow’s a new week and I’m going to start with a clean slate.

Josh says: By the way, I’ve been doing heavy research into email usage and information overload for a capstone project this semester, and came across an interesting research paper that experimented with the optimum number of times to check email in a day. A lot of us are “continuous checkers,” meaning we know about email right as it comes in (because our computer chimes or our smartphone vibrates). This is, as you might guess, the worst type of checking because it continually distracts you from the task at hand. Some studies have shown that it can take anywhere from 24 to 40 minutes to get totally back to a task after being distracted by an email! No wonder we feel like we are wasting our days on it. But back to the paper: with continuous checking being the worst, checking email 8 times was still better but not great, but checking email 4 times a day or less was optimum. You schedule just 4, 2, or, like Paige, 1 time a day to check your email, get it all done at once, and you will be able to get your more important tasks done much more quickly and waste less time getting distracted by these less important emails. Just thought you’d want to know!

Update on life

Hello! Hope you’re all enjoying your January and having a wonderful time. We are! Life is good. Here’s a smattering of updates through pictures…

Josh had a birthday! We celebrated with family (his brothers, my sisters) at a local sushi place. Yum, sushi.

Carson did really well, but he didn’t last the whole night:

Speaking of Carson, he’s kind of a ham. Well, at least he loves my point-and-shoot camera. If we need to cheer him up when he’s fussy, the camera usually does the trick.

We also got him some winter clothes with Christmas money. It was actually my first time picking out clothes for my own son (everyone was so generous with baby shower gifts!) and it was fun! We found some great sales at Old Navy and now I feel like a better mom because he has a hat and coat to wear outside in the cold.

See? Ham.

Random update, his eczema is gone! Hooray! Cetaphil lotion did the trick for us. Carson is also teething (two small teeth on the bottom already!) and loooves chewing things – mostly fabric. I’ve come to get him up from a nap a couple times and found him like this:

(That’s his sock in his mouth.) He also prefers his tummy and will always roll that way when we put him down on his back. And he’s starting to travel! Just rolling, twisting, pulling, and a tiny bit of scooting. But it means he’s starting to explore his world.

Well, what can we say? We just love this little guy so much. Seriously. Having a baby has been an amazing, incredible, and downright fun life-changing experience.

And that’s life! :) Well, life also entails some other pretty great things. Josh is finishing up his last semester and doing well in his classes. He graduates in just a few months! My new hobby is couponing…not awesome at it yet, but I’m getting there. It feels good to be able to use the increased free time I have to help our family save money. And here’s a peek at my new haircut. I’m loving the convenience of the shorter length!

We’re getting excited for our big move to Denver in April…wait, did we just annouce that for the first time? I think we did! Well, it’s true! We’re moving to Denver! Josh got a job offer from Pariveda Solutions, the company he interned for two summers ago, and we gladly accepted it. We’re headed out there at the end of the semester!

In the meantime, we really are enjoying every last bit of our time in Provo. We’ve been in our house here since we’ve been married (just over three years!) and we really love it. We also love being close to our siblings here at college. Dinner nights this semester have been a blast with all six of us.

So that’s us! Hope you’re all doing well and happy, too. :)

Christmas break

Christmas break was in Texas this year and was a blast. We loved seeing the Ellsworths and enjoying time off from school. The weather was really nice, too. A little rainy at first, but later sunny and so warm and nice (except for those few eerie foggy nights).

Anyway, let’s start with pictures!

First of all, isn’t he just the cutest baby ever?

 We sure think so.

Carson did awesome on the plane ride home from Houston, but he didn’t do so hot getting out there. We don’t blame him: it was a long day of travel with a five-hour layover in Denver (turns out we’ll do about anything for the cheapest fares). It was a long day for Carson and all of us, but we all survived. Here’s Carson on the first leg of the journey.

Carson also got his first haircut over the break. Nothing major, he just had some long stringy pieces that I trimmed. I’ve never cut anyone’s hair in my life, but I don’t think I messed up.

I got a haircut, too, from my sister Brenn. Well really, like 4 haircuts. She would cut it, and we’d both say, “Let’s go a little shorter.” Then she’d cut it again the next day or so. It was fun, and now I’m a whole new me! I’m liking the short hair.

We really liked seeing family over the break. Carson gave us lots of good laughs, especially for grandma, who just can’t wait until he can talk and play.

Carson also met his great grandma, my mom’s mom. We went to visit her at her new house in Houston.

There Carson also met Aunt Melissa, our number one blog fan. :) Thanks for always being the first to comment, Melissa! Melissa’s five-year-old son Byron got some great laughs out of Carson, too. Also, Byron is a Star Wars fan, and we are Byron fans. Yeah, Byron, Star Wars rocks!

Below: Mom and Jennie at Grandma’s house (and a great photobomb by Brenn).

And finally, we had one awesome sushi night, our last night in Texas. It’s kind of become a tradition when we all go home to make homemade sushi. This sushi night was probably the best of them all. I mean, look at all this deliciousness. We went all out. One of the best parts is how everyone gets to name the sushi roll they make. (My favorite name was Brenn’s Rick Asltey roll…get it? Rickroll!) We even had homemade fortune cookies by Jennie. (Yes, I fully realize that sushi is Japanese and fortune cookies are…well, American wanna-be Chinese, but, hey. Perhaps our sushi nights aren’t the most authentic, but they sure are tasty.)

It was a great, wonderful break. Very relaxing. And Christmas morning with Carson was probably the best of all. Even though he’s too young to do much besides grab for the pretty wrapping paper, having a kid on Christmas changes everything and makes it so much more special and fun.

We hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and New Year’s too!

Carson at four months

Carson at four months:

  • Loves to coo, squeal, and lately, gurgle
  • Sucks his fingers and thumb all the time
  • Has sadly outgrown the swing. He still fits inside, but gone are the days when he’s content to just swing and peacefully stare. Now he wants out!
  • Is avidly exploring his world by grabbing for things
  • Smiles and laughs when he sees himself in a mirror
  • Likes being ticked, being talked to in funny voices, and grabbing our faces
  • Has eczema :( We’re working on diminishing it. Any recommendations?
  • Can roll over both ways (back to stomach and stomach to back). He actually seems to prefer his stomach because he usually rolls over that way and stays there.
  • Is starting to move! A few times Josh or I have walked into where we left him (in his crib or on a blanket on the floor) and said “How did you end up there?”
  • Now has crib bumper pads. It was time after we found him with both legs sticking through the slats one night.
  • Is simply adorable: